Don't get mad at me for telling the truth you don't want to hear...

This is a message I shared on my fetlife profile and decided to share it here as well...

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How often has that line been shouted out lately?

It is nothing new, it is just a phrase I have seen more often than usual these past few months.

This phrase tends to be the response of a writer after everyone attacks them for stating their opinion on how all spanko girls are overweight fat chicks, or pros are prostitutes, older women are only jealous of younger women, parties are inclusive, cliquey snob fests… etc etc etc

Some people cheer the person for saying what they are thinking while others call it trolling. Then the line comes out, “Don’t get mad at me for saying what everyone is thinking.”

It makes me shake my head. Yes people will get mad. Why? You are being rude and insulting!

When has it become okay to go around and tell people they are fat or ugly or old? Is it the safety and anonymity of the internet that makes it okay to say anything that we are thinking? Do you go around in real life and tell a large audience of people that they are ugly and stupid? I doubt that you do because you would most likely get your ass kicked.

I know that posting a message will not solve anything and some people will come and ridicule me for even saying anything. However, what happened to good manners?

I don’t like everyone. I’m a human being. Like other humans I have thoughts about others. Do I look at people and have opinions that aren’t always the nicest? Yes. Do I go around and say it? No! Why? Because it is rude and I was taught to have good manners!

I am a 32 year old, overweight female with social anxiety issues and poor self-esteem. I’ve been called fat, ugly, stupid, and crazy, all on this wonderful internet. Yes I have a ridiculous online persona, but behind that persona is a very real person. Why on earth is it okay for you to be this rude to a real person? Did I ask for it because I created a social media profile? Did I ask for it because I wanted to share pictures and stories with the friends I have made in the scene over the years? Was it wrong for me to post a picture because I am “fat” and should know better?

Here is my “don’t get mad at me for telling the truth.” I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you were never taught manners. I feel sorry that you feel entitled to spend your time going around and talking bad about people, pictures, and groups.

People will continue to post offensive remarks and comments. People will continue to fight and defend such remarks. Nothing will change there. But maybe, just maybe, we can take a moment and think, “would I say this to this person if we were standing face to face?”

I can’t control what others do, but I can control what I do. My goal is to be more positive about myself and others. Will people leave rude comments to me? Yes. Will people offend me (along with others) in the fetlife threads? Yes. Do I have to sink to their level? No, I don’t.

Shake it like a Polaroid Picture!

I spend WAY too much time on Fetlife.  WAY too much.  So much in fact, that sometimes I accidentally say Fetlife instead of facebook while conversing with vanillas.

Opps.

I'm pretty snarky.  I rather enjoy the petty drama that break out on boards from some butthurt troll trying to get a rise, to the uberest of uberdoms who swear their way is the only way and talks down condescendingly to everyone who disagrees with them.  I'm the person that comes on and makes a smart ass comment that may or may not have something to do with the topic at hand.   It's better than a soap opera!

Threads and the people who respond shall be a post for another day.  ;)

I'm am more fascinated with the posting of pictures.

I have not yet decided if I am going to post pictures to this new blog.  My old blog had several pictures. However, I would post some pictures of myself and next thing I knew I was finding pictures of myself on people's blogs and webpages.  I would be looking at pictures on Fet and other sites and would find a picture of myself with a description giving me a brand new name and a story of what they spanked me for and how I was spanked.

It was pretty frustrating.

I do have several pictures on my fetlife account.  Most are set to private, but the pictures that hide my face are available for everyone to see.  I know that having public pictures allows for everyone and their mother to write a comment, but the comments themselves are what fascinated me.

I wont lie.  I post pictures for attention.  ;)  If I think a picture is horrible I wont post it.  If I really like a picture I put it out there in the hopes of getting nice comments.  I also like to share these pictures with my friends so they can get a brief glimpse into my husband's and my spanko life.  Mostly though, I'm just an attention whore.

I love to go around to all of my friend's pictures and post a comment and hit that 'love' button.  If an interesting picture pops up in my feed, I click it.  Sometimes I love it, sometimes I wish I could bleach my eyes out.  For the most part I love what people share and think it is pretty cool that we have a social networking site that allows for us kinky individuals to gather, converse, and share.

In addition to the wonderful comments my friends leave, I tend to get comments from the serial commentators.  Nice comments, generic comments, backhanded compliments, and the down right mean.

My favorite is the "I love a girl with a fat ass."  Gee... thanks.  That is what EVERY girl wants to hear.

Or how about the "Nothing like a big bottomed girl standing in the corner."  Not much better than the comment above.

Or how about the comments that say, "I would shove my dick up that fat ass and fuck the shit out of it!"  Does that EVER work??!!??  Or the "I'll jizz all over that face!"  EEWWWWWW!

One day I logged on to Fet to see that I had 46@s and my email was blown up with fetlife emails.  One guy went through and started to love AND comment on all of my public photos.  I had never once met this guy, talked to this guy, or even SEEN this guy before.

This man started off with generic "nice ass" comments.  Then started off with how HE would spank me and how my butt could be redder.  Then as he continued making this comments, it was as if we became friends.  He started adding honey and sweetie, then my name, then my apparent "full name" (it wasn't) and finally he ended it as if we had just done the scene.  Weird.

Do you have any favorite photo comments?  Do you have a favorite line that you like to leave on comments?  Feel free to add them in the comments.  ;)